Suggested resources

Internet-based memory/grief sites:

The New Zealand Childhood Cancer Memorial – a New Zealand memorial site for children who have died of cancer.

1000memories – a site where you can digitise, upload, organise and share photographs online. You can add dates, tags and captions to your photographs and are able to scan and share them with an iPhone by using an app called 'Shoebox'.

Tributes Online – NZ-based site where you can create a tribute page for the person who has died. All funeral homes here have immediate access to this website and can create a tribute page for you. – an internet community of people dealing with grief, death and major loss, is a useful US-based site with a comprehensive list of resources available, and online support groups for both children and adults. – Tom Golden's interactive website. Tom is an American grief counsellor and writer who specialises in working with men. His website offers parents opportunities to read other parents' stories, and articles about grief.

There is a huge range books about grief for adults, young people and children. Talk to a librarian or a good bookseller about what is available that will suit your particular need. For an updated list of good grief resources, go to the National Association for Loss and Grief (Nalag NZ) website.

Suggested reading

Beattie, Kath. (2007). Walking Backwards Into Your Future. Dunedin: Kath Beattie.

Golden, Thomas. (2000). Swallowed by a Snake. USA: Golden Healing Publishing.

Heaney, Pam. (2002). Coming to Grief: A survival guide to grief and loss. Dunedin: Longacre Press.

Ironside, Virginia. (1996). You'll Get Over It: The rage of bereavement. UK: Penguin.

The Dougy Center for Grieving Children. (2004). 35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child. USA: The Dougy Center for Grieving Children.

Wallbank, Susan. (2010). The Empty Bed: Bereavement and the loss of love. London: Darton, Longman and Todd.

Books for children to read

Boritzer, Etan. (2000). What is Death? USA: Veronica Lane Books.

Bryers Holloway, Judith. (2001). Hine's Rainbow. New Zealand: Mallinson Rendel.

Gootman, Marilyn E. (1994). When a Friend Dies. Minneapolis: Free Spirit Publishing.

Hager, Mandy. (1995). Tom's Story. New Zealand: Mallinson Rendel.

Mellorie, Bryan and Ingpen, Robert. (1983). Lifetimes: A beautiful way to explain death to children. New York: Bantam Books.

Rosen, Michael. (2004). Michael Rosen's Sad Book. London: Walker Books Ltd.

Simon, Norma. (1986). The Saddest Time. Illinois: Albert Whitman and Company.

Varley, Susan. (1984). Badger's Parting Gifts. New York: Lothrop, Lee & Shepard/HarperCollins.

Viorst, Judith. (1971). Tenth Good Thing About Barney. New York: Aladdin Paperbacks.

How to handle a digital death

The resource below could help you prepare for managing your online presence to help your loved ones in the future. It show's the steps you might need to take to handle digital death in a simple and managed way.

Here's the guide:

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