Changes in your body image and sexuality

Cancer treatment, side effects, scars from surgery and changes in body weight can all affect how you feel about yourself and how people react to you. Your self-confidence can be affected by changes in appearance.

Physical changes can affect your sexual functioning and your feelings of attractiveness. Fatigue and depression can cause loss of sexual desire and you may lose interest in sex if you are depressed. Call the Cancer Information Helpline 0800 CANCER (226 237) for a copy of the booklet Sexuality and Cancer/Hōkakatanga me te Matepukupuku or contact your local Cancer Society. You may find it helpful to talk to your social worker, psychologist or counsellor.

The following strategies may be helpful:

• Take time to get used to any changes.
• Think of yourself as a whole person, made up of your body, mind and personality.
• Talk to your doctor about your options for reconstructive surgery or using an artificial body part (prosthesis).
• Join a support group.
• Participating in exercise or a creative activity may increase your self-confidence.
• Sign up for a ‘Look Good…Feel Better’ workshop for women. This workshop teaches techniques to help with self-confidence during and after treatment. Contact the Cancer Information Helpline 0800 CANCER (226 237) for details.
• If you find you are less interested in sex or it is physically difficult, it can help to talk through how you feel with your partner if you are in a relationship. Explaining that your lack of interest in sex is not a sign of lack of affection or respect for them may help you both feel more secure.

“My doctor really helped me when he said. “You’re in a new relationship, and I’m guessing that sex is important to you”. Ross

“I was determined I wasn’t going to look sick. I did my hair and wore make-up during treatment. These little things helped me feel better about myself.” Jillian